Taking Good Care of Yourself

Let’s talk about something we say all the time but often struggle to actually do: taking good care of ourselves.

Not the cute bubble bath version (although I love a good bubble bath with candles). I’m talking about the kind of care that requires intention. Boundaries. Honesty. Rest. Slowing down enough to actually hear what your body, your spirit, and your emotions have been trying to tell you.

Lately, I’ve been having conversations with clients, and real talk, with myself, about what it means to actually take good care of yourself.

Sometimes it looks like:

• Saying no without the follow-up explanation or apology.

• Leaving that text on read because you just don’t have the emotional bandwidth right now (when I master this, I’ll let you know)

• Logging off, signing out, and choosing quiet instead of being “on.”

• Making the doctor’s appointment you’ve been pushing off.

• Letting yourself sleep in, without guilt.

• Eating real food, not just snacks you grabbed between back-to-back responsibilities.

• Choosing peace over proving a point.

Taking good care of yourself is less about aesthetics and more about alignment. It’s checking in with yourself and asking:
What do I need today? What am I avoiding? What am I carrying that’s not mine?

The truth is, many of us, especially Black women, have been taught to survive. To push through. To show up even when we’re depleted. But care is not just survival. It’s not earned after the work is done. It’s not selfish. It’s sacred.

Here’s your reminder: You deserve to be tended to by you. Tenderly. Daily. Intentionally.

So today, I invite you to pause and ask yourself:
What does taking good care of me look like, for real, for real?

When you come up with the answer. DO IT! Go do at least one thing that aligns with that answer. Not for anyone else. Just for you.

You’re worth that and so much more.